Our first dance
I have been married for three weeks and one day. The last Australian left just one week ago and already I can imagine why so many couples get knocked up so soon after getting married. That’s not to say that I want a kid or am hoping to get pregnant any time soon - don’t worry Guy (or Mum).
On average, most couples spend 18 months planning their weddings, we did ours in three. That means for the past three months every waking moment has been focused on the BIG DAY. We’re married now and although we haven’t yet had our honeymoon, I find myself lacking purpose. I am no longer juggling a list of 10 things that need to be taken care of, there isn’t the buzz of knowing that my parents and friends are on their way from their points around the world, the big party has happened and the thank you card have mostly been sent out.
The good thing about getting married is that nothing changes. You wake up next to the same person that you’ve been with for however long beforehand. The bad thing is that suddenly you have all of this time on your hands. In the past week I’ve decided despite the current economic crisis that it would be a great idea to buy a flat in London, looked at flats online, fallen in and out of love with about half a dozen realising we can probably afford a place in our area, only to be stymied by the fact that we don’t have a 15% deposit, I’ve also researched other methods of getting a deposit (equity schemes), organised my pension scheme (how grown up) and started looking into private health care. I also found time to make pesto from scratch, bake savoury muffins for lunch (and salads to complement them in the mornings), return the emails to my neglected friends, see a press screening of Star Trek and drink afterwards, cook dinner for a friend and negotiate the finer points of my new work contract.
What next? Clearly I need a hobby.
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My goodness, you’ve been one very busy lady since the wedding!
How about taking up crafting? I’ve become quite obsessed with knitting, and have taken up my favourite teenage habit of jewellery making, too. Want to learn how to crochet next, and just bought a Cath Kidston pattern book…you can see how much time crafting can take up! Come to a Stitch ‘n Bitch night with me soon, it’s good fun!
Otherwise, there’s always house-hunting, even if you don’t buy, finding a place to rent can take up plenty of time too
There is always my Christmas present…
I just wanted to mention that I can certainly relate to many of the points you bring up in this post. I have been happily married for a little under 5 months. It is funny that after the wedding there is lots more space and free time. I don’t know how I could have handled the time right after the wedding if we hadn’t had our honeymoon trip to think about. Being married is a really fun life adjustment to make overall though. : )